Posts Tagged ‘certified life coach’
Coaching for Life – Are You Single And Loving It?
You are a strong willed individual with a clear sense of independence. You are self confident and devoted to experiencing life on your own. You have made the decision that marriage is not one of your life goals and you celebrate that fact. So why can’t people be happy for you?
Unfortunately, people who have not made the same decisions as you cannot phathom wanting to go solo through life. They assume that you are single because the right person has not come into your life yet. They assume you are lonely. Quite simply, they just do not understand that you are single by choice. We all have heard the term “happily married” but how often have we heard she’s “happily single”? That is because the concept is so foreign to anyone on the outside.
One of the biggest obstacles that individuals who are committed to the single lifestyle face is not having a reliable person, who understands your situation, to go to for advice. You can’t turn to your parents because they are too busy still trying to find you “Mr. Right”. A life coach may very well be your best ally when it comes to making informed decisions that will effect your career, your finances and your personal growth.
Finding a certified life coach who specializes in coaching singles is not always easy though. This person will be your mentor who will guide you through all of the plans you have for your life so you need to be very sure that you choose wisely. She must specialize in helping individuals reach their goals, she can also be a great source to network with other people who, like you, are committed to the single lifestyle.
Have you found a certified career/life coach out there who is as happily single as you are? If so, she will be the best one to guide you. She is a rare find because she understands the difficulties you face as an unmarried person in a corporate world. She has faced the same situations you will encounter in your career and can help you deal with descrimination that singles often come up against in their corporate life.
So if marriage is not one of your life goals, celebrate it and rely on those who truly understand.
Career Coaching – Think It, See It, Be It – Visualizing Your Success
Visualization is a very important key to achieving success. If you have a vision of the goals you wish to attain they are more real and more attainable. It is a way to train and focus your thinking to be driven to succeed.
The first step in visualization is to seriously consider exactly what you want out of life. Maybe you want financial freedom. Maybe you aspire to make a difference in society. Perhaps you desire the prestige of being considered the best in your field. Whatever your passion is you need to clearly define it in your mind.
The next step is to find someone who, in your mind, represents your goals. You can learn how to be successful from studying others who have achieved what you desire. If possible, meet with that person. Explain to them that you consider them to be a role model of yours. You would be surprised to know that many people whom you hold in high regard are very willing to speak openly about how they got to where they are. People love to talk about their accomplishments, especially to an attentive audience. Learn as much as you can from this person.
If it is not possible to actually meet your mentor then study them intently. I don’t suggest becoming a stalker, but make note of who they keep company with. Read anything they may have written. Read any bios or profiles you can find on this person. Study their behaviors. Contact them by phone or mail to try to strike up a mentor/student relationship.
Keep a picture of this successful person visible, preferably in your closet or dressing room. Every day before leaving your home look in the mirror and imagine yourself as their equal. When faced with a challenge, think to yourself, “How would my mentor handle this situation?” By emulating a successful person’s behaviors you are training yourself to also become successful.
Studies have proven that extraordinary people all tend to have many things in common. They were not just born exceptional. They learned the behaviors necessary to succeed and they all have a vision. By studying and imitating you too will learn those patterns.
Now visualize yourself having attained your goals. What exactly does it look and feel like to have that financial freedom? What vision do you have of yourself having made a difference in society? How does it feel to be the best in your business?
You must first have a very clear vision of yourself as a successful person in order to achieve your goals in life. Once you have that vision, you are learning the behaviors, you can now go ahead and map out the plan that will make your visualization a reality.
How Can Career Coaching Improve My Life?
Professional guidance and mentoring boosts self-esteem and provides personal encouragement, information and accountability in moving along the career path. In addition, career and life coaching adds value in various life domains – health, habits, grooming, demeanor, personal presentation, business etiquette, attire. All of these are crucial in advancing one’s career or transitioning to a different career field.
- help you explore and better define your professional competencies,
- address personal issues impacting your career,
- clearly identify your career objectives,
- discuss and resolve obstacles to employment and career success,
- guide you in developing both short-term and long-range career strategies,
- assist you in developing, executing and managing a successful job search campaign
- prepare you to competitively interview, negotiate compensation and evaluate offers.
In addition, many coaches offer services beyond the immediate job search and are available to support you throughout your career with ongoing guidance and support for long-term career planning, management and advancement.
Typically, clients are either in their early 20s looking to launch a career or fast-track their career; or they are in their 40s, 50s or early retirement years and they desire to transition to an entirely different career field. A common trait among Singles Career Coaching clients is that they have a vision they want to fulfill. Usually they want to achieve personal job satisfaction and also make an impact on the environment, on people or on the world. Commonly, to achieve their goals, they need: education, a structured plan, support and encouragement.
10 Easy Steps to Positive Thinking
We all know that positive thinking can make a huge difference in creating success in your life. Here are 10 very easy ways you can make minor adjustments to your daily life that can have a very positive impact on your outlook on life and how others perceive you.
- Take Good Care of Yourself. It’s much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.
- Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For. Stresses and challenges don’t seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in your life. Every day take just one minute to make note of your achievements, your strengths and your blessings.
- Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions. Do not waste your time worrying about the “What if’s” in the world. If you cannot validate a fear as fact then put it aside as unfounded and move on.
- Refrain from Using Absolutes. Have you ever told a partner “You’re ALWAYS late!” or thought “I NEVER get considered for a promotion!”? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like ‘always’ and ‘never’ make circumstances seem worse than they are, and programs your brain into believing that certain situations are impossible.
- Detach From Negative Thoughts. Negativity attracts negativity. Non-productive thoughts can be infectious. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, recognize it, and set it aside.
- Squash the “ANTs”. In his book “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life,” Dr. Daniel Amen talks about “ANTs” – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are reactionary negative assumptions, like “Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me,” or “The boss wants to see me? I did something wrong!” Do not imagine the worst. Keep your thoughts positive and you will address all situations in a positive manner.
- Practice Lovin’, Touchin’ & Squeezin’ (Your Friends and Family). You don’t have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn’t touch!
- Increase Your Social Activities With Your Prospective Peers. Surround yourself with healthy, happy, successful people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way! Social activities will prevent you from being lonely, will open doors to new contacts and experiences. Success is a learned behavior, by exposing yourself to successful people you will begin to learn success patterns.
- Get Involved With Charities or Lend a Helping Hand. Volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return. Having a “Pay It Forward” attitude will make you feel good inside which will project into other areas of your life.
- Be a Part of The Solution and Not Part of The Problem. If you find yourself focusing on an obstacle; stop. Take a step back and focus instead on finding a solution. Limiting your mind to problems will prevent you from moving forward to creating successful resolutions.
Negativity is often an unconsious reaction. Training your brain to focus on the positive takes a little bit of conscious effort on your part but the benefits are worth the effort. Work on incorporating one of these tips in your life until they become habit and then move on to the next tip. You will be surprised how quickly your mind responds to positive thinking and the effects it has on those around you.
January, 2010
PWN International Conference ‘10
Sandra will be a presenter for the Conference at the Seelbach Hotel in Louisville, Kentucky
(June 2009 issue, page 95)
